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The Time When We’ll Be Present & Content
Today, I only have questions.
We’re striving for happiness and contentment, but when will we be there? I think we often see a time in the future when things will be better – we’ll have a better relationship, job, house, health situation, financial situation, and more. But when will that day come?
What’s stopping us from being content right now?
What’s stopping us from being present right now?
Many of us can point to external conditions that get in the way of being present (some problem on our minds), or that get in the way of being happy and content. But actually, the things that are stopping us are all inside us. We can’t let go of problems and be present. We are frustrated with ourselves, with others, with our situation, with the way the world is, and we can’t let go of wishing they were different.
The obstacles are inside us.
And so, can’t we let them go?
And can’t the time for happiness be right this moment?(Thank you, Leo Babauta)
My Favorites July 2015: Great Stuff I’ve Found Recently
My monthly “My Favorites” routine includes posting links to great content I ran across, to encourage you to check them out if they sound interesting for helping you to live a meaningful life. Enjoy!
Do You Know Who You Really Are?
Interesting article by Ed and Deb Shapiro about the masks we wear. Read it here
3 Little Tricks to Deal With People Who Offend You
Something that we struggle with daily, that eats us up and causes stress and anger: annoying people.
You know those people: they cut in line, are rude to you in the office or at the restaurant, cut you off in traffic, talk loudly about obnoxious things, play loud music when you’re trying to concentrate, interrupt you, and so on.
These offenses are violations of the way you think people should act. And so it burns you up. Don’t worry, I’m the same way.
If you just keep letting these offensive people get to you, you’ll always be mad or annoyed. Life won’t be very good. But it’s something you can learn to deal with.
I have to admit I’m not perfect at this, but here are three strategies I use that are helpful: Leo Babauta, continue reading
Brené Brown on Blame
Book recommendation: The Great Zen Buddhist Teacher Thich Nhat Hanh on How to Do “Hugging Meditation”
“When we hug, our hearts connect and we know that we are not separate beings.” Read about this book here
What the Dalai Lama Taught Daniel Goleman About Emotional Intelligence
Two decades before Daniel Goleman first wrote about emotional intelligence in the pages of HBR, he met his holiness the 14th Dalai Lama at Amherst College, who mentioned to the young science journalist for the New York Times that he was interested in meeting with scientists. Read the HBR article here
Smile, breathe, and go slowly!
Dieter
Yes, Life is Risky-Dive in Anyway
As a child, your eyes sparkled with the majesty of your dazzling future.
You were connected to your power. You spoke in truths. Your heart was wide open.
The world was a safe place. Open for dreamers of every sort. Welcoming to the possibilities that all of us represent.
Then something happened to most of us…
The doubts of those around us became our beliefs as well. We embraced their limits. We adopted their fears.
This happened quietly + gradually and incrementally, so we couldn’t even see it happening to us. But our highest natures knew it: our boldness was diminishing. And our lights were dimming.
We started to settle. For average work. For minimum health. For scarcity of too many sorts. For a small amount of love in our lives.
And when we say the ones who lived like lions. The Brave Few. We called them geniuses and gifted and otherworldly-denying the same potential hiding within ourselves.
But a day comes in every life when we can no longer run from the call for greatness that inhabits us. We must return to it.
We have no choice.
For some it’s leaving the safe harbor of an old way of being.
For some it will be leaving a job to launch a dream.
For some it will be finding new love.
And for a few of us, it will be battling the critics in the fight for a better world.
I don’t know your dreams. I have no idea as to your desires. I likely don’t even know you personally…
…but I do know what you’re made of. It’s pure possibility. It’s a core made of power. It’s a mind made for visions. It’s a heart built for love. It’s a spirit designed to wow.
And so today, as you move through your hours, let’s go of who you were to become all you are. Please.
Return to Greatness. Model Mastery. Show us what the best of being human is all about. And lift us with your light.
Make this day epic. And let’s not take our tomorrows for granted. (Thank you, Robin Sharma)
Alan Watts – Mind over Mind
One of the most profound videos I’ve ever seen! Enjoy!
With kind regards,
Dieter
My Favorites June 2015: Great Stuff I’ve Found Recently
My monthly “My Favorites” routine includes posting links to great content I ran across, to encourage you to check them out if they sound interesting for helping you to live a meaningful life. Enjoy!
4 Questions to Help You Find Your Passion
It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live. Article by H. Lovelyn Bettison. Read it here
Finding Focus
Do you ever have one of those days when you just can’t seem to find focus? When you fritter away your time on nothingnesses, distractions, wandering without really doing something important?
Or one of those weeks?
I have those days regularly. I can find myself “working” for several hours, but at the end of those several hours have nothing to show for it. I feel like I’m floating around, with no anchor, no focal point.
So how do we find focus?
Leo Babauta, continue reading
How Do You Stop the Mind’s Chatter?
Book recommendation: André Gide on Sincerity, Being vs. Appearing, and What It Really Means to Be Yourself
“Don’t ever do anything through affectation or to make people like you or through imitation or for the pleasure of contradicting.” Read about this beautiful book here
The Infinite Hotel Paradox – Jeff Dekofsky
Smile, breathe, and go slowly!
Dieter
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Seized by the Thunderhold of Fear
They’re all around us, affecting our lives in unseen ways, causing worry, hesitation, confusion, anxiety, avoidance.
They bring us to our knees.
Fears control us in ways we never realize, unacknowledged and more powerful because of their unknown workings.
Fears stop us from following our dreams, from taking risks, from pursuing love, from seeking adventure, from speaking in public, from going into the unknown, from starting a new venture, from reveling in discomfort. We procrastinate, overeat, find distractions, because of fear. We are seized with constant worry, from fear.
And yet, these fears are just clouds.
They float into our field of vision, unbidden and unwanted, like a dark stormy cloud. We get caught in the rainshower and thunder, and feel that this is our entire world. We immerse ourselves in this cloud, as if there’s nothing outside of it and it will never go away.
But the cloud will pass.
The cloud floats away, like anything else. It’s nothing to run from. It’s just a passing cloud.
So watch the cloud of fear arise, acknowledge it, and watch it float away, like any other thought. Enjoy the chill of the shadow and the wind as it passes over you.
Then step into the sunshine of the present moment, beautiful and joyous now that the cloud has passed.
In each moment, we are OK. Even when fear arises, we are OK. Learn to trust in this OK-ness, the goodness of the present moment, the enough-ness of you, right now.
See the fear pass, and see that you’re still OK.
Once you develop this skill of watching the fear pass, and trusting in your OK-ness and enough-ness, you are equipped to deal with life, and get up off your knees. (Leo Babauta)
With kind regards,
Dieter